Success doesn’t happen by accident. It takes hard work, focus, and dedication. But it isn’t just about working hard at your job or putting in the blood and sweat to build your business. Because people do those things all the time and still struggle or never make it. If you want to be successful, you need to develop the habits that will help all your hard work and hustle pay off. Here are five habits for success you can start practicing today:
1. Depersonalize your failures
Everybody fails. Even the most successful people in the world deal with failure. The difference is that instead of seeing it as a problem, they recognize failure as a chance to learn. Research actually shows that you optimize learning when you fail at least 15% of the time and failing early in your career can actually make you more successful in the future. Because when you fail, you figure out what doesn’t work and the best way to actually get the task done.
Stop listening to people who try to make you feel like your failures define you just because they’re too afraid to take a chance to go after their own goals.
“There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their lives but will spend every ounce of energy they have, hurling advice and judgment at those who dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear mongering.”
– Brenee Brown
Those people are wrong. Your failures aren’t a reflection of who you are. So, don’t be afraid to fail and don’t take it personally when you do. Accept that failure will happen and fail forward by figuring out the lessons and using what you learn to get closer to your goals.
2. Build your confidence
One of the key habits for success is confidence. That might sound like motivational nonsense, but a University of Messina study showed that higher self-esteem could increase your lifetime earnings by $280,000 to $1.12 million. Confidence is a literal money-maker. But you won’t get it if you sit around hoping for success to fall into your lap. Confidence comes from taking action, because the more you do something, the better you get at it.
You also have to watch the way you talk to yourself. If you tell yourself you’re not good enough, you’re going to believe it, and you’ll subconsciously sabotage yourself with those limiting beliefs. So, when that negative self-talk comes up, don’t let it linger. Cut it off and replace it with language that supports who you’re working to become.
Don’t forget to keep track of what you’ve already accomplished. It’s one of the best ways to build your confidence, because it reminds you what you’re capable of. My team and I have monthly ‘look back days’ where we sit down and look at everything we achieved in the last month. It helps us see our progress, recommit to our vision, and focus on what needs to be done. Start using ‘look back days’ to build your confidence and keep you moving toward your goals.
3. Never stop learning and growing
The minute you think you know everything, you’ve already lost. When you convince yourself there’s nothing else to learn or no more opportunities to grow, you’ll block yourself from chances to discover things that will lead to more success.
So, approach everything in your life with a student mindset. Ask questions, read books, follow people on social media who can educate you on the things you want to achieve. Find a mentor who can teach you lessons from their experiences. Take online courses that will help you develop new knowledge and skills. Never stop learning.
4. Know your strengths, train your weaknesses
Learning is one of the most important habits for success because it helps you identify what you’re really good at and gives you a chance to strengthen your weak spots. And those are two practices successful people are consistent about. They play to their strengths and focus their time and energy on what they do best, and they hire people who can help them overcome their weaknesses.
Stay open to learning and consistently taking on new challenges so you can identify your strengths and weaknesses. When you figure out where you need improvement, put a plan in place to level up your skills. Even if you can’t afford to hire someone, use free or low-cost resources like books and courses to get better at the things you struggle with.
5. Improve your circle and community
Your circle is everything, so choose it wisely. You want to be surrounded by people who have an ambitious mindset instead of a “crab in a bucket” mentality. People who think that way don’t like to see the people around them climb, so whenever you start making progress, they’re going to try to pull you back down.
To figure out what kind of people you have in your circle right now, listen carefully to how they talk. Are their conversations positive or negative? Do they talk about ambitions and possibilities, or are they always gossiping and complaining? When they see people going after their goals, are they encouraging, or do they talk about how they’re going to fail?
If you’ve got negative people in your circle who don’t have growth and success mindsets, you need to cut them off before they get in the way of your goals. Look for people who talk about their goals and dreams and actually execute on them. You need people who have ambitions and the discipline to take action on those dreams. Those are the kind of people who will help you on your own path to success.
Success is never a coincidence. If you want it, you’ve got to work for it, and these habits for success are a great place to start. Want to add better people to your circle and get access to tips, tools, and strategies that can help you achieve your goals? Check out my Inner Circle Membership today.